Most often, people confuse if there is a chemistry of love or lust, and it will be found that even the most brilliant people are going to get confused about whether it is just an infatuated affair or the stages of the relationship have reached love phase.
In most cases, infatuation and love are so intertwined and hard to separate. However, lust is experienced at first sight of meeting someone and then infatuation or, in other words, the strong desire to have sexual intercourse with the person or the passionate feeling towards that person.
Love is experienced with longing and pain, while lust causes feverishness and frustration. On this, experts say love brings sacrifices, yet desire brings discomfort and enthusiasm associated with occupation addiction of the mental space.
It's crucial to understand the scope and the operations of an affair, infatuation or love and how they differ. Despite there being a proven similarity but there are also differences.
But how do you know if someone you had an infatuation feeling for her or if he is coming from an affair into love?
According to Alexandra Stockwell, MD, a Relationship and Intimacy Expert at Alexandra Stockwell Coaching and Consulting say; "The most commonly understood distinction between lust and love is that lust is purely and sexual, whereas love includes care for someone well behind their function as a source of yearning and sexual gratification."
A 2014 study found oxytocin was significantly higher in new couples than in single people who represented infatuation. The elevated oxytocin levels remained during a 6-month follow-up, and couples with higher oxytocin levels were at the beginning of their relationships.
The study further indicates the formation of romantic attachment in humans who instantly fall in love or who have been close for a long time and are likely to experience altercation in brain activity and associated neuro-hormonal processes. For instance, the initial stage of a romantic relationship was found to be associated with more excellent neural activity in the left posterior cingulated cortex and caudate regions.
Meanwhile, some signs will tell you an affair is turning into committed love. Here are signs an affair is turning into love.
We Are going to think about them a lot.
You will find that they are always on your mind. If this happens, it might mean something intimate is building up, turning into committed love in the near future.
Research has indicated that once you fall in love with someone, turning them off your mind is impossible, no matter the effort that could be invested.
You want to spend time with them
When an affair is about to turn into love, you will discover that you will want to spend time with the other person. Further studies have indicated that feel-good and sociable chemicals are secreted when the two lovers are together. Therefore, this feeling creates the same powerful effects as drug addiction.
More Conflicts
One of the notable signs that a relationship is turning a page is that you and your partner are experiencing more misunderstandings and disagreements than before because it is a sign indicating your relationships are going into the phase of rebuilding and laying strong ground foundations.
Indeed! Couples aiming to improve their relationship must fight once in a while because personal weaknesses and differences will be disclosed through fighting.
You create a future with them
When an affair is about to transform into strong love, it will come with commitments, and the partners are likely to start planning for their future with the person they are having an affair with. If you see this, then you are falling in love.
It might be difficult to focus
Depending on the feel-good chemical substances secreted when the affair has turned into love, there is the tendency of contrary when the intimate partners are separated. As a result, it is going to cause mental distraction. What couples are only thinking about is when they are going to see each other, and it is a sign that you are entering into the love phase.